#1.26 Protecting Your Marriage when You're Apart
on Wed Aug 21 2019 05:00:00 GMT-0700 (Pacific Daylight Time)
with Darren W Pulsipher, Paige Pulsipher,
Time apart can be hard and taxing on a marriage. But there are many situations where it is inevitable. Time apart comes in many forms, work travel, traveling to see kids, a spouse in the military, it all takes a toll on your marriage and your relationship. In this episode, we talk about the dangers of being apart and some tips to overcome the side effects.
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Time apart can be hard and taxing on a marriage. But there are many situations where it is inevitable. Time apart comes in many forms, work travel, traveling to see kids, a spouse in the military, it all takes a toll on your marriage and your relationship. In this episode, we talk about the dangers of being apart and some tips to overcome the side effects.
Situations of being apart
- Spouse travels for work
- Spouse travels to see their kids or a long commute to get them or take them back to their ex
- Spouse lives in another location
- Spouse deployed
- You or your spouse work long hours or opposite schedules
Perils of being apart
- Disconnecting emotionally
- Missing out on what is going on at home
- Feelings of resentment (I am doing all the hard things at home while you are out to eat at fancy restaurants)
- Upon returning, the person at home feels in charge and the other disrupts the flow
- Changes made while you're gone
- Overwhelmed feelings by being alone and no one to share in the burdens
- anxiety
- There is a physical toll on the person traveling
- Watch out for emotional isolation
How to Protect your Marriage
- The divorce rate is higher in couples that travel or spend alot of time apart
- Connect every day - skype, text during the day
- Make sure you are sharing all the little things, but be careful not to just share all the bad that happened - makes spouse that is gone feel helpless
- Don't romanticize your spouse's life
- If possible travel together
- Watch a show together
- Skype in for the nightly routine
- Don't spend time alone with coworkers or friends of the opposite sex
- Don't impulse buy to fill a void
- Make sure you leave on a good note - pre-separation anxiety causes fights
- Leave notes for them to find
Lemonade moment of the week
- Paige fixed the AC
Links
- https://thepointsguy.com/2014/02/the-hardest-part-about-having-a-traveling-spouse/
- https://smallbiztrends.com/2017/04/bring-your-spouse-on-a-business-trip.html
- https://medium.com/@mountainsunmoved/my-husband-works-his-butt-off-for-our-family-c181243a0e48
- https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/how-to-keep-business-travel-from-killing-your-marriage/